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I’ve decided to come out publicly as bisexual. I realized I was bi at at 19 or 20, and came out to a handful of folks over the years, but it’s taken me until age 40 to get to this point. I didn’t think hiding part of my identity was setting a good example for […]

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Ever since I turned 40, I’ve been more aware of, and thinking more often about, my own mortality. (So clichéd! I know.) One of the most comforting things I’ve stumbled across is this Epicurean epitaph: I was not; I have been; I am not; I do not mind. The idea that I won’t exist is […]

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Yesterday was our 10th wedding anniversary, and we spent it in Leavenworth, WA — the first just-us trip we’ve taken since our daughter was born (even further back, actually: the first since our honeymoon). It was a short overnight trip that somehow managed to feel like it lasted much longer, in the best possible way. […]

On Saturday night, the kiddo and I slept aboard the Arthur Foss, an 1889 tugboat moored on Seattle’s Lake Union. We shared a tiny cabin, toured the ship, and had an absolutely marvelous time. It’s a deceptively large ship — at least as much of it is below the waterline as above it. It weighs […]

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Below, the War Rig. Witness me as I get single-digit gas mileage all the way to Valhalla Seattle. Day one of two: Miles driven: 597 Caffeine consumed: 1 large coffee, 6 Red Bulls States crossed: 3 Percentage of me that feels like roadkill: 73 Current location: Hermiston, OR Utah Some guy cut off my War […]

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What’s that, Empire State Building? I can’t hear you from the top of the Burj Khalifa. Today I hauled 135 boxes up from the basement to the ground floor and staged them for our upcoming move. Then I jogged up and down the stairs a few extra times to hit 163 floors for the day.

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Same-sex marriage: now legal in all 50 states! What an amazing day! When my daughter asks me where I was when I heard the news, “in a McDonald’s drive-thru” is maybe not the most dramatic answer. Holy shit, what a fucking fantastic thing. It’s electric. My whole body feels like it’s vibrating.

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Our dog Charlie died today at age 17. My wife got him as a puppy, I entered the picture when he was 9, and our daughter has known him for 4 years. He fell asleep in my wife’s arms while I was on the way home, and she passed him to me to hold when […]

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