I’m bisexual

I’ve decided to come out publicly as bisexual.

I realized I was bi at at 19 or 20, and came out to a handful of folks over the years, but it’s taken me until age 40 to get to this point. I didn’t think hiding part of my identity was setting a good example for my daughter, and I’m finally in a place — both mentally as a person and literally, in Seattle — where I feel comfortable being myself.

It feels beyond good to finally do this.

12 thoughts on “I’m bisexual”

  1. Myles Corcoran

    Good for you! Hiding who are can be a terrible weight to carry. I’m glad you’re in a place where you can speak up and be honest with those you love.

  2. Matthew Neagley

    Is there a meaningful intersection between your last post and this one? Discuss.

    Glad you’re in the right place to be comfortable with making this announcement.

    1. Martin Ralya

      The moonrises post? Not directly, no. But I guess there’s a similar impetus — don’t wait too long to do stuff, don’t take time for granted.

      Thanks for your support, Matt!

    1. Martin Ralya

      Thanks! I’m still vacillating between being a bundle of numbers and being joyful about it — but mostly the latter!

  3. Trailblades

    I’m proud of you martin. I’m also happy you trusted us enough to share this. Thanks :-)

  4. Wow. I really don’t care at all. Which I’m guessing is a fairly ideal resposnse. Good for you. Now, I do care when your posting rate drops…

    1. Martin Ralya

      “I don’t care, post more often” is pretty much the opposite of ideal. If you don’t care, just move on; there are a million RPG blogs out there.

  5. I care about you. I don’t care that you’re bi. I have no problem with you posting about being bi. I’m just saying I like your blog and can’t get enough. I hope I just communicated poorly. If not, I’ll just move along and wish you very well.

    1. Martin Ralya

      That wasn’t what I took away from your comment at all — thank you for clarifying, I appreciate it. :-)

      Posting more often is a bit of a tightrope for me. On one side is burnout, which often comes from posting when I don’t really feel like it but feel obligated to do so anyway (for a variety of reasons). That was happening before I left Gnome Stew, and it’s the main reason I left.

      On the other side of the tightrope is never posting at all, which is certainly much easier! It’s no less detrimental, though, because I need a creative outlet and I enjoy blogging and sharing stuff with folks who might be interested in it.

      The tightrope is posting just the right amount to avoid the drop. ;-)

      Sometimes that’s daily. I was on a streak some time ago where I posted every day and had a ball doing it. But I’ve had long stretches — like this one — where I post occasionally, at best, because posting more often feels like work.

      Thanks for sticking with Yore during the slow times. :-)

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